How I work
Are you someone who struggles to ignore that voice in your head that is constantly telling you how things "should" be? The voice that tells you the kind of job you should have, the sort of relationship that you should be in, the life stage that you should have already mastered, the type of parent that you should be? Maybe you are watching your child struggle with their own set of shoulds and you can see it starting to take a toll.
I definitely get it. We all have an idea of how we think things should go. But the problem with defining ourselves by our shoulds is that so much of the time, we find that we come up short. I work with adults and teenagers to reduce feelings of anxiety, depression, inadequacy, and dissatisfaction by eliminating thoughts about what you should be and instead building upon and celebrating what you already are.
I very much believe that my clients are the experts of their own experiences. You are the only one who knows what it's like to be you. My role as a therapist is to provide the space and support for you to break through the mental and emotional blocks that are getting in the way of you accessing the very best version of yourself. With children, my job is to provide them with the tools and words to express big emotions in ways that are empowering and effective, laying the foundation for a strong emotional self as an adult. Clients often tell me that I'm different from other therapists that they've had. My style of therapy is directive and collaborative. I don't just listen, but I actively engage with you- asking questions, offering strategies, and challenging unhelpful patterns and tendencies. My goal is that you leave every session feeling greater clarity and more hopeful about lasting change. And if you don't, I want to work with you to figure out why, and how to get you there.
I favor a holistic approach to treatment that relies heavily on a mind-body connection. While our feelings and emotions are tricky and complex, our bodies are pretty good at sending us straightforward messages and learning how to listen for and respond to those messages is integral to our mental health. I am a strength based and solution focused therapist. This means that we focus on what works, rather than what isn't working.
In treatment, we’ll work together so help me gain an understanding of who you are within the context of your life experience. When working with anxiety we’ll rely heavily on cognitive behavioral and behavioral strategies as these types of interventions tend to bring the most immediate relief. I also focus on helping my clients develop greater mindfulness and self compassion, as we know that being kinder and gentler with ourselves is crucial.
In my work with children, I look at the whole child and their cumulative experiences. Through play, art, behavioral interventions, and parent involvement I work on managing anxiety and developing greater emotional regulation, reducing challenging behaviors, and developing social skills that support improved functioning across environments. I am certified in UCLA's Program for the Education and Enrichment of Relational Skills (PEERS) which allows me to incorporate strong, evidenced based tools into my work.
Ultimately, I embrace a collaborative approach to treatment where we will work together to determine a treatment plan that meets your needs and that you feel comfortable with.